July 5’ 2009
Hi hony
I love you! Thank you for the mail you sent me while I was at the JT camp. I’ve been waiting for Christmas before expressing to you fully how thankful I am to you for coming into my life and all the good that you brought with it. Yes, this is a letter of appreciation and well… apology too, as I am writing this shortly after another emotional exchange we had. I’ll get into that later though, as the main focus of this letter is in appreciation of you.
Things that make you a good mother:
You care about our children’s education enough to put some of your other duties aside to make sure that it is up to par.
Despite your busy personality and schedule, you become personally involved in the needs of our children.
Our children are the first priority in your books.
You have a sense of a loving but firm disciplinary standard upon which we can build a balanced criteria together for the good of our children
You desire to love and be loved by our kids
Our children are like the apple of your eye
Things that make you a good GF:
Even when you are exhausted and spent from the day, you listen to my concerns
You avoid arguments at all costs
You encourage me to make choices according to my own faith
You are weak in yourself, and strong in the Lord
You put the Lord, the Word, and the Lord’s work above everything
You are willing to bend and compromise your convictions and ways of doing things for the sake of our relationship
You love me, and are faithful to show it and express it
You are very affectionate with me and show me that I am special to you
I want you to know, hony, that the list above would be three times longer by Christmas, if not more. Btw, I compiled that list during camp and hoped to continue adding to it as the days, weeks, and months rolled by. But seeing that I should probably express to you how I feel after what often seems like unavoidable friction between us on a daily basis, I thought that you should know these things. I want to add a few more if that’s alright.
There is no question in my mind that you balance me out like no other. (You complete me. There is nothing else that is more important and that sums up a perfect companion and help-meet for someone)
We experience problems, but never without remedy; arguments, never without compensation; hurt feelings and wrongs, never without forgiveness; questions and uncertainty, never without assurance.
You give and give, even until it hurts. You have such a giving and sharing spirit, that I am put to shame.
We sure do have our problems, and like has been said by millions of couples in relationships or marriages we can often feel like we have more problems than other couples or people in the world or in the Family around us. But it’s proven that most of the time we’re wrong in thinking that way. I can stop to think about It too, and I conclude that our problems are definitely minimal, and our uncertainties few. I need to apologize, though, for being frustrated and mad sometimes, and most of all, for making you cry. I apologize for all the tears I’ve caused you. I really don’t want to cause tears. But it’s true, if we can learn to take each others comments and reminders as the acknowledgement of the weaknesses that we’re bound to see in each other, we can not only avoid tears; we can also learn to be more the people that we need to be for each other.
I love you—Your Sweetie
